Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Help Us Make A Decision About Fuck Face

First ever reader poll!!!
(p.s. something about adding the polling system fucked with the design of this page - all other reading material will look normal)

To send the apology...or not to send the apology; that is now the entire question.

We need a night off from writing about the stress of our mental illness, the stress of our job and the stress of our personal life. We also need to consider a final move on the Fuck Face Situation - because we're feeling like the wool has been pulled over our eyes, and even if it hasn't been, the fucker isn't playing by the rules, and we cannot withstand the constant temptation for the duration of his, or our, employment. It's just going to drive us bat-shit crazy...and if you know us, some of you might be saying "Isn't it too late for that" (for a couple of us, maybe).

If any of you are familiar with the Fuck Face chronicles here on our blog, then we need your vote; and Fabulous People thinks it's a great idea - we love her.

If you're not familiar with the story, then the next 24 hours or so is a good time to catch up - it's been said that it's pretty interesting reading:
So, before you vote, we want to explain the why we feel the need to send an apology letter to The Wife:

A) we hate being lied to, many who know this story seem to think he's been lying all along, the only way to make sure he's been honest is to send her an apology; if he hasn't told her the whole truth, like he said he has, then she'll have questions he'll have to answer. (note: she has not asked the who, where, how or what...only the why - according to him)

B) after his three day weekend he come back to the office today to say the following:
  • he had a "fatantasy" about us Saturday, while doing horse chores, lasting only 45 seconds, and made sure to drop in that it would have probably untilized our safe word. It had to do with wrestling, and other things we used to do together
  • he is not in the basement guestroom. We commented that now at least he can use the internet. He said "Yeah, to talk to you. That's how all this started. Now I have to say "I'm checking the weather" I don't care about the weather.           
  • NOTE: Given that he knows of our continued feelings, and our struggle to say no to him, Fabulous People (our closest friend, a woman who works for both he and us) agrees, he should not be saying things like that, should not be tantalizing us - those are not appropriate behaviors. We've been fucking yanked around enough by him.
C) we want to apologize to The Wife, because if we had a husband/boyfriend who cheated, who had told us about it already, we would want to know his mistress feels some sort of remorse; however small it may be. It would be a non issue with us, so it should be a none issue with her...as long as he's ACTUALLY told her, like he said he has.

Seriously, before you vote, read the stories. Keep in mind, at NO time have we ever asked him to leave his wife, we have never had any intentions on blackmailing him. Either way, no matter what happens - she keeps him, we can't be his friend. We push this matter - we can't be his friend (because really, he wouldn't want to be at that point) - so for us, in the end, the result is the same.

Feel free to leave comments if you have something to say, we can't maintain a conversation in 140 character bits.

After you're done with that maybe you want to read other stuff around here...or not. We'll be around Twitter all.fucking.night. We might even be drinking...again.

Added: June 2, 2011 - polls closed on this matter and results were as follows:
As far as a decision. Well...this whole post was mostly Melody's idea...we're not all into the destruction of Fuck Faces life...though we all enjoy pushing his buttons and such. She is happy to know that the majority would/will be on her side. But for now we'd like to say our main goal in this is "Fuck with Fuck Face" - because we can. Thanks to all the voted! We had to take downt he pole because it was totally messing with our layout of the blog, and making things look all gross.
For the month of May, Mental Health Awareness Month, we will be posting this at he bottom of each of our entries, to help provide additional information about us, and about Dissociative Identiry Disorder/Multiple Personality Disorder.

10 Things You Should Know About US That MIGHT Surprise YOU:
  1. We used to be a Baptist missionary (yeah, can you fucking believe that shit?!) [we are NOT religious]
  2. We were once married (didn’t last long) [one of our stories talks about him]
  3. We have had nearly 30 physical addresses in 30 years, mostly as an adult (nothing could contain us in the early days) [we actually own a house, but choose not to live in it]
  4. We’ve lived in 2 countries: 1 province and 6-7 different states (running much)
  5. We have lost 120 pounds since the age of 24 (100 of it when we were 24) [and it's close to 140 pounds now)
  6. We have a full time job (well, now it's 32 hours a week - but they actually let us work around the other humans!) [it get's harder everyday, and this is the longest we've ever had a single job since we were 17. We've been there almost a year]
  7. We deal with social anxiety type symptoms every day (and these days we choose not to leave home much, but for going to work) [there are about three people we feel comfortable with being in public with and sometimes we have to be out there alone]
  8. We have multiple “mental illness” diagnoses (doesn't everybody?) [p.s. all misdiagnosed]
  9. We have two beautiful cats, who piss us off every day (but they are special, because they put up with us) [though one of us hates them beyond belief]
  10. We have struggled to survive, over and over, defeating the odds thrown against us (read our stories) [seriously, how are we not dead yet?]
We've copied the stories written here that are specifically about our past (mostly abuse) and moved them to our other blog, called:

Addressing The Issue of Frank: The Origins, History and Life Story of Frank, from "Just Call Me Frank: One Womans Endeavour At Being Frank"  
(this blog also contains our artwork/photography - the following links will take you to that blog)
Some of our writing on this blog we like to promote (consider them highlights), these are those entries since mid-January 2011. There are bits of writing in this blog that we do not actually promote due to embarrassment over things that some have written - they are here for our own tracking - they are angry, mean, scary things - usually. If you feel like it you can find them on your own (they are in the What We've Been Up To over on the left). Here are the highlights of what we have written so far this year:

The Mental Health Entries:
Dissociative Identity Disorder/Multiple Personality Disorder
Humour/Random Fun:
If you have any questions for us we are very open and will answer to our best ability - this is totally the month to ask us questions. You can either ask us on Twitter, in the comment section of a blog entry here, or e-mail us at justcallmefrank2010 (at) gmail.com.

Resources for You - facts, figures and personal stories of other people can be found on these sites:
National Institute of Mental Health: http://www.nimh.nih.gov/index.shtml
American Psychological Association: http://www.apa.org/index.aspx
Canadian Mental Health Association: http://www.cmha.ca/bins/index.asp
Mental Health Europe: http://www.mhe-sme.org/
World Psychiatric Association: http://www.wpanet.org


  1. You know my feelings already and I'm aware of the consequences of voicing them but since you asked,..
    My gut says yes, if it is the ONLY way you think that you can get the truth. I could ask you a dozen questions but I will do as you once asked me and trust you that you already asked and answered them already.
    I will say yes because you deserve the truth but I hope you are prepared for the outcome as it could go TWO ways.

    James (mr_jmm)

  2. I voted yes this morning but after some thought here is my answer - since Frank et al asked.

    First of all, regardless of his excuses, Frank et al consciously made the decision to be his mistress. To be with a married man. You aren't his first and won't be the last.

    Secondly, stay out of the middle of his marriage drama for two reasons.

    Frank et al's letter will create more drama and pain for Frank et al and continue the pain, confusion and drama. Sending the letter is short sighted and drags this all out for Frank et al.

    Also, if Frank et al really want to make it right for FuckFace's wife stop spending time with him, talking to him or acknowledging him. Do your job and go home - or wherever - without him. No more alleys, drinks or nights.

    Spend that energy on your paintings and writings.

    Just saying...

  3. Sorry, Sean, clearly you do not understand that he is still trying to entice us, as of this morning. He needs to stop, he is only hurting us with these actions - and will clearly continue to do so unless we take action.

    Secondly, we will sound like a bitch here, but of all people, we are not taking YOUR advice.

    ~ Not Frank.

  4. lol! That's fair...

    ...but isn't advice. It is an opinion.

  5. Send it, but if his wife dumps him and tosses him from the barn, you know where he is going to look for a roof and comfort, right?

  6. for the sake of your own mental health, I really do believe you should send the letter. 1) you'll no longer be driving yourself batty wondering what to do... 2) if he's lying, this will put it out in the open... 3) I personally think he needs this kick in the balls to stop playing with you... 4) it's an excellent way to let him know you're ready to close the door on his idea of friendship... because the reality is, friendship isn't want he's offering and you deserve better.