Showing posts with label Summer. Show all posts
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Sunday, June 7, 2015

Marketing ​Is ​Culture - Reflections on ‘Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture’

It's over.
We've officially been university graduates for three weeks now.
We ended with a 4.0 GPA for the semester, and graduated Magna Cum Laude. It was a pretty cool feeling walking across that stage wearing an honors medal. It felt like we finally got something we deserved.

The last half of the final semester we churned out about nine papers of varying lengths. It's unlikely the bulk of them will end up here for you to read like in previous semesters because they weren't all gems. It being the final semester, and due to the reading and writing load being so heavy (it was another heavy credit load semester at 17 credits counting the internship - full-time is 12 credits - plus an additional part time job), and a smashed laptop closing in on "zero hour", a few of the papers didn't receive the best effort possible.

The following is a paper for an independent readings and study course. As a reflection paper, it is much more informal than most of the papers written over the last couple of years. It is meant to demonstrate that the text was not only read but understood and reflects thoughts, ideas, and viewpoints inspired by the reading.

The book was merely an okay read and very broad, but it did provide some base material for what could be further papers should grad school be a thing in the future. Jury is still out on that decision.
For the summer it's back to painting and a third year of gardening, and next week is a much anticipated two week vacation in Toronto Canada to really kick off the summer.

Enjoy the Reflection, should you choose to read it. As always comments and debate are welcome. Feel free to leave a message and/or read some of the other stuff around here. :-)




     O’Reilly and Tennant determine immediately that “we live in an age of persuasion, where

people’s wants, wishes, whims, pleas, brands, offers, enticements, truths, petitions, and

propaganda swirl in a ceaseless, growing multimedia firestorm of sales messages.”(1) These sales

messages add to the overall mass of information that one is subjected to each day, but these

messages also ​add​ to the culture, if not create culture. This is a contrary view to that of O’Reilly

and Tennant who ​seem ​to be hold a stance that it is in fact not adding to culture, but consuming

our culture.

     First, trying to separate marketing from culture in a way that can explain how it is

consuming our culture is futile. Marketing has existed for easily 3000 years, from the time

someone could articulate the benefits of one product over another using “public criers”. There is

even indication that print advertisements existed during those times. (2) Marketing has persisted

alongside culture for ages.

     Advertising and marketing are ​part ​of culture. They are influential forces which not only

are inspired by changes in society, but also reinforce and reflects those changes “Advertising is

the great mirror of society”. (3) While unsavory for many to accept, marketing is information which

imbues “cultural materials” into society (4) thereby becoming culture. As O’Reilly and Tennant

state, when “marketing seeps into feature films, arts, popular music, and even literature, it

changes the relationship between the arts and audiences.”(5)


Cultural Mediums and Advertising

     However, this intermix of art and cultural information, and marketing, is nothing new for

a 21st Century heavily influenced by the growth of branded and marketed entertainment via the

internet. Cultural mediums have always been influenced by advertising and marketing, and in

some cases owe their existence to them. Going back to the time of the first newspapers and

magazines, marketing was often the saving grace of publications, providing the funding required

to keep them in business.

     Looking to the 20th Century we can see Warhol with Campbell Soup and Coke from the

60s and the influence marketing had on the development of pop art. The pop art movement

added​ to the art world, it did not consume it, or eliminate new movements. Art, like marketing, is

always evolving with changes in society. Even in the 80s Lucky Strikes became a constant for all

of Stephen King’s characters that smoked. Theses examples may not have been marketing

directly, or even on purpose, but they were no doubt influential in the relationship between the

medium and the audience, creating associations that have become part of culture.

     Radio, film and television entertainment, on the other hand, owe much of their existence

to marketing ventures. Sponsored content was a staple of radio and television, and companies

would solely sponsor entire shows, such as Ovaltine’s Little Orphan Annie (radio), and ​The

Colgate Comedy Hour and Kraft Television Theatre (television)​. Even lesser known is the first

product placement in films, dating back to the 1920s ­ a mere thirty years into the life of the art 6

medium. In fact, without advertising and marketing there would have been very little newspaper,

magazine, radio, and television entertainment. Even today advertising and marketing are

essential to the culture of entertainment; social media and the internet depend heavily on the

industry for the ability to provide services and entertainment for free or at low cost. These

mediums, like their predecessors, are integral to the evolution and development of culture.

Further, marketing is essential to their livelihood, thereby helping maintain and influence culture.

     Not only does advertising and marketing influence culture, but in some ways it

theoretically inspires democracy, particularly via the internet. As O’Reilly and Tennant confirm,

“[...] a great characteristic of the Internet [is] the fact that it levels the playing field. Everyone has

access, [...] everyone can be heard.”(7) They cite YouTube as a prime example, a “great enabler [it

is] the first hugely democratic mass medium, where any one person could speak to millions if

[IF] her idea was big enough to resonate with the masses in cyberspace.”(8) Without marketing and

advertising there is no way to maintain the platform without heavy usage fees paid for by the

consumer, which would limit access severely, and therefore not be a catalyst to democracy.

Additionally, the internet has reanimated branded advertising, imbuing society with

opportunities to become part of marketing culture.



Branded Marketing and Culture

     Perhaps the second most interesting concept of ​The Age of Persuasion​ is branded

marketing, which has become a huge complex strategy. As earlier stated, the marriage of

marketing and art is changing relationships between art and audience. What marketing is also

doing is change relationships between brands and consumer, attempting to forge “genuine,

long­term relationships” by seeking to “invest genuine personality in their brand [...] invest[ing]

time, [and] finding meaningful ways to engage customers”.(9) They breathe life into a brand,

becoming what a consumer feels, forging emotional attachments. (10)

     One way in which they breathe life into a brand is through stars or personalities who

sometimes themselves are the brand (11) (Think Kim Kardashian) or become an icon. By using

films and their stars, musicians and their music to “influence fashions [and] drive sales” they

create demand and “persuade their audiences to accept their personal messages and viewpoints.”(12)

This branded and marketed entertainment personifies lifestyles, it is about creating a bonds

with consumers (13) while “​being​ what people enjoy and ​still delivering branding​”. Therefore

branded entertainment is about informing and influencing culture through embedded messages

delivered by “trusted” messengers ­ it is about being the culture through icons and “allow[ing]

customers to makes a statement about who they are”. (14)



Out of Touch?

     O’Reilly and Tennant say that in “[...] the living, growing, all­encompassing and

relatively modern culture of persuasion” marketers are vying to “take up lodging in some corner

of your mind”.(15) They seem oddly out of touch with the long cultural history of marketing, as

well as the evolution of the acceptance of marketing in today's modern networked society,

particularly among youth.

     They claim that youth are “becoming increasingly immune to the conventional marketing

messages” and that “they hunker down in front of their computers, putting up fences that most

marketers haven’t yet learned to scale”.(16) However, there is indication that youth is accepting of

target marketing methods because it leads to advertisements that are more tailored to them, and

therefore more relevant and interesting. Some research indicates that trust and value based

approaches work in marketing to youth.(17) Returning to the concepts of branded entertainment,

we can understand one way in which marketers create trust among youth audiences.

    According to O’Reilly and Tennant, “the larger the audience an advertiser strives to

reach, the harder it becomes to forge meaningful relationships with each individual customer”(18)

however, they seem to discount that through niche marketing and target marketing these

relationships can be created, which implies an analogous relationship which would in turn create

a more significant impact for the message at hand.

     Due largely in part to the development of mobile technology the relationship between

brand and consumers are evolving.(19) Another way marketers create trusting relationships with

youth audience is through the creation of social media stars who have established relationships

with their followers.(20) As O’Reilly and Tennant state, “the blunt realities of marketing to young

people are causing vast changes in language and tone of advertising. As their attention shifts

from mass media to smaller, online social networks, they’re sharing information and opinions

about products, brands and fashions”.(21)


Conclusion

     There are so many different topics in ​The Age of Persuasion, ​each of which could be

granted an essay of its own. For instance, the influence of marketing and the internet on the

consumer as a channel and the branded self (22); the power shift taking place between traditional

media and new media (23); the empowerment of consumers in the new two ­way communication

environment relationship with advertisers (24) and advertising as an art (25) ­all of these topics would

be worthy of further research.

     However, while plentiful in potential research topics, ​The Age of Persuasion: How

Marketing Ate Our Culture​ was far too broad and failed to accomplish what the title implies it

set out to do: explain how marketing ate our culture. What is ​did​ accomplish is providing a

wealth of examples on how marketing and advertising has contributed to the growth of our

culture and will continue to do so as it regurgitates the messages of society.


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Citations:

1 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. xiii
2 "Advertisement | Promotion." Encyclopedia Britannica Online. Accessed 2015.
3 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. 162
4 ​Bartholomew, Mark. "Advertising and Social Identity." ​Buffalo Law Review​ 58 (2010): 931­76. 
5 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. 161
6 According to a lecture in Advertising and Society (Spring 2015) Red Crown gasoline was the first instance of product placement in the 1920 film ​The Garage
7 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. 100
8 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. 116
9 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. 268.
10 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. 187.
11 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. 224.
12 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. 149
13 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. 221.
14 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. 196.
15 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. xv, 118.
16 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. 77.
17 Sultan, Fareena, Andrew J. Rohm, and Tao (Tony) Gao. "Factors Influencing Consumer Acceptance Of Mobile Marketing: A Two­Country Study Of Youth Markets." ​Journal of Interactive Marketing​ 23 (2015): 308­20.
18 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. 117.
19 Sultan, Fareena, Andrew J. Rohm, and Tao (Tony) Gao. "Factors Influencing Consumer Acceptance Of Mobile Marketing: A Two­Country Study Of Youth Markets." ​Journal of Interactive Marketing​ 23 (2015): 308­20.
20 Sloane, Garett. "Meet the Man Who Unlocked the Secrets of Mobile Marketing." AdWeek. September 14, 2014. Accessed 2015.
21 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. 95.
22 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. 108.
23 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. 100­101.
24 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. 104.
25 ​Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009. 35.


Bibliography:

"Advertisement | Promotion." Encyclopedia Britannica Online. Accessed 2015.

Bartholomew, Mark. "Advertising and Social Identity." ​Buffalo Law Review​ 58 (2010): 931­76.

Reilly, Terry Edward, and Mike Tennant. ​The Age of Persuasion: How Marketing Ate Our Culture​. Berkeley, Calif.: Counterpoint. 2009.

Sloane, Garett. "Meet the Man Who Unlocked the Secrets of Mobile Marketing." AdWeek. September 14, 2014. Accessed 2015.

Sultan, Fareena, Andrew J. Rohm, and Tao (Tony) Gao. "Factors Influencing Consumer Acceptance Of Mobile Marketing: A Two­Country Study Of Youth Markets." ​Journal of Interactive Marketing​ 23 (2015)

Thursday, August 14, 2014

The Countdown

Classes start in eleven days.
ELEVEN DAYS.

Meanwhile, painting "season" is coming to a close, there just won't be time (plus we'll have to deal with harvesting and preserving the garden!). Guess this means summer is coming to a close. <sad face>

{Meanwhile, check out the new website and domain for paintings at: www.graphicallyfrank.com}

The anticipation and anxiety have been churning up madness, and we've been doing the best balancing act possible. It feels like this brain is being crushed by the skull, all too often it feels a struggle to grasp a single line of thought and pull it out of the cloud. With only two semesters left before graduation it's the final countdown. The class load is heavier, the topics more focused...but for the forensic science class (yay!) and the class related to problems in political science. By the looks of the books for the POLSCI class, the problem being tackled this semester in the environment and energy in political policy. So...get ready to read a bunch of crap about that.

The mix of classes is really exciting this semester, and there are 12 books to plow through - some really interesting ones, like Smarter Than You Think by Clive Thompson, The Shallows: What the Internet is Doing to Our Brains by Nicholas Carr, Connecting Social Problems and Popular Culture: Why Media is Not the Answer by Karen Sternheimer, and Pop Culture Freaks: Identity, Mass Media, and Society by Dustin Kidd (don't worry, those links take you to Goodreads, not Amazon).

Oh, and there's another really cool nutritional study coming up that we'll be taking part in, which requires strict diet (set and provided by the scientists), heavy monitoring and staying at the facility (while still allowing for work and classes) twice, for eleven days at a time. Why would we do that, you ask?! It's going to cover just about all the remaining tuition costs for Fall semester, so, really...it's just logical. Plus it'll be a savings on
a) gas ($90 dollars for each eleven day stay)
b) groceries
c) alcohol
d) time (80+ minutes of travel a day).
It would almost be stupid not to do it. It would be. It would be totally stupid to pass it up just because of the inconvenience of not sleeping at home (and having all meals and liquids dictated by strangers).
But, we can have visitors. :-)

It feels like the summer went too fast and we didn't do enough writing. It's unfortunate because there were a lot of events some of us would have liked to cover, if only to keep our writing in check, because it feels like this semester is going to be heavy in essay writing, since there is only ONE actual textbook for one of the six classes, the others are destined to be springboards to further research and writing. Having not written all summer, suddenly it's hard to remember how to write anything, let alone in the style of essay, despite having written a stack of them last semester.
Surely just the most average of the anxiety creeping into the space between skull and skin.

So, eleven days and our schedule changes again (schedules are sort of a linchpin in our mental health)...we'll stay positive until proven otherwise.

As always, thanks for reading even though you probably had something better to do.

Friday, July 11, 2014

Summer: A Garden Update

It's been a month and a half of turbulent weather. For a couple of days most of one of the gardens was under water. It wasn't looking good. But then suddenly everything started to pop. It looks like it's going to a second year of successful gardening. The only problem is that it's been hard to get into the garden and weed properly more than once, because of the rain and the massive amount of mosquitoes. Additionally, for some reason, there are way more weeds this year compared to last year. Their seeds must have come in on the wind.

At least the herbs on the back porch: four basil, a marjoram, English thyme, oregano, rosemary and chocolate mint plant, create an inviting smell and have been useful for weeks now (can't make enough variations of chimichurri sauce). *sigh* Summer. It should always be summer.

But it's been a busy summer with work, painting (four completed last month), travel, house guests and general relaxing before the ramp-up to next semester. While there's been plenty of mental health issues to write about of late, it seems redundant, and it's really not always the right time to lay your issues and insecurities out into the digital world.

In any case, here are some beautiful photos from the garden.

Three kinds of beans (painted pony, cannelino, purple queen)
Summer Squash (there are patty pans and zucchini...PATTY PANS!!)
Baby Green Pepper
(there is also a red, yellow and purple pepper, two poblanos and four jalapeno plants). 
Cippolini onions (there are red and white planted)

Sweat Peas
Cherry Tomatoes
(there are a total of about 17 plants of various breeds)
Butterhead Lettuce
Baby Leaf Lettuce
Eggplant Blossoms
Potato Blossoms
The South Plot
(full of winter squash, cilantro, swiss chard, kale, carrots, onions [red, yellow and white], leeks, potatoes, broccoli, beets, etc...oh, and weeds)
It's all going to pop at once and the amount of produce will be unmanageable, but that's when the real fun begins...canning, dehydrating, eating. So. Much. Eating. :-)


Sunday, April 27, 2014

The Best Time of the Year

Too much reading and too much writing leads to too much drinking.

The day of the week-and-and-a-half "push" is upon us.

With two 10-page papers, and a media convergence assignment (in which a roughly 1800 words of text are required), all due on the 7th of May, the first day of work starting tomorrow, panic is simmering. We're going back to work, this time permanently, instead of seasonally. Hurrah! It will be relieving one aspect of stress (financial), but adding another (loss of time). The amount of final projects for this semester are astounding, the amount of reading and writing is, and was, absurd. If the pages written were compiled, it would be book length, easy.

Today was spend reading the second section of David P. Lynch's True to Life: Why Truth Matters. And boy, is that a dry bone. Meanwhile we managed too eek out 4 pages of reflection (last week's section garnered six). It's been hard to stay on focus, so much reading and writing - and it's all different subjects: from political science to journalism pieces [on a local event/happening] to philosophy to interpersonal communications. From one to another to another and by the end...it feels impossible that we could have absorbed as much as we should have. But the end of the semester is so close, we can almost touch it with out tongue...for the next couple of weeks we just need to bare down and plow through and hold tight to sanity.

The stretcher strips are waiting to be draped in canvas (we have a planned series of paintings for the summer); tomorrow the potato seeds arrive, which means it's almost time for planting, and the dark inviting soil of the garden will be bearing produce in no time. Inventive recipes from what is pulled from her will be part and parcel of this summers blog postings (you're thrilled, surely) just to get the value out of the culinary degree laying waste in our brain. Soon it will be time to hit the lakes and rivers and catch some fish. There are books to read (some in preparation for next semester) and things to write. And of course work.

And let's not forget summer guests and the Toronto Tweetup in June.

Summer is the best time of year, obviously, we are at our most creative and energetic. Hopefully we arrive in it with sanity intact and ready to suck the marrow, because before we know it, next Semester will baring its ugly head. I hate to be prideful, but I'm pretty proud that we've made it through the last two semesters with very few major mental health issues, it wasn't always easy, but hopefully it will continue to trend.

Friday, August 10, 2012

Productive Day

It's Friday. Have a drink. Listen to some music. It's summer...kick back.

We've been canning yummy food all day, pickled banana peppers, garden fresh tomato sauce, green tomato mincemeat. Green tomato mincemeat is a great use for tomatoes from a plant inflicted by blight, which is a fungal infection that becomes a problem as the tomato turns red and looks like this:


There are a couple of plants, of the many dozen, that have been producing tomatoes like this, so we figured we cut them to the quick, pick them green and make a mincemeat - a mixture of (sometimes, green tomatoes) raisins, apples, spices, lemon and orange zest, sugar, and vinegar. Mincemeat is commonly used in pies and pastries (it grew out of fashion some time ago, but is popular in Europe, and likely in the south). Also, we learned tonight, it's GREAT with plain, unsweetened, yogurt.

So...it's been a productive day:

4 pints pickled banana peppers
2 pints experimental cucumber pickles (we're developing some canning recipes)
5 pints garden fresh tomato sauce
6 pints green tomato mincemeat

Some of the production! Our tomato sauce!
Now, we kick back, listen to some Van Morrison (and many other artists) and enjoy a refreshment, or two...or three.



The point is, relax, it's summer...and it's coming to an end. We saw Halloween displays being set up at Menards (a local building/home improvement store) yesterday. Talk about scary.

Happy Friday, world.

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Because Love

 <- That's what we did today.

We also caught a carp that we decided not to keep, (they are not generally good for eating, but we're going to try it sometime anyway) and one of those stupid goldeyes again. 

We were supposed to hear from our real estate agent today regarding a recent property offer...we're apprehensive to say to much right now. We're sure James is being driven crazy with our constant chatter about the farm, at least fishing helps distract from it.

Basically we'll be spending days fishing, enjoying the summer sunshine...we can almost feel summer hitting the turning point as July continues and our birthday approaches...until we can get ourselves onto our farm, then ... renovations, and cleaning, and all sorts of other fun.

It's been a great summer so far. Last year at this time we were just about getting fired from our second-to-last job, and getting ready for James' first face-to-face visit with us (we met him on Twitter, you know), and just getting our head above water with managing our "mental illness" and each other, again.

So much has happened since then!

We're almost done with all the stuff James needs to have completed to be a resident of the United States. Then a few months, an interview with government, and over $5000 later he'll be ours to keep (for at least 10 years, at which time he will have to renew his papers) - hopefully. There is an off chance he won't be approved, but it's such a tiny chance, there are other things to worry about.

We think he's a little crazy; but he's awesome, so we'll forgive the crazy, like he does for us.
Because love.

Sunday, July 8, 2012

Fishing and Other Things

Not our actual fish, but that's a walleye face!
Went fishing yesterday, it was awesome to get back on the water. It'd been about 5 years since we were able to do that. We caught seven walleye, five to keep, two to release. James didn't get his fishing license until today when we went fishing for channel catfish - which is our favourite type of fish to catch. We didn't catch anything but for three goldeyes (James caught nothing) which are crap fish, unless you smoke them, which we were not prepared to do this week.

James got to watch us gut two of the walleye last night, making it the second type of animal he's gotten to watch us hack away skillfully at (the other being the deer from last fall).
We're just a load of American sexy resourcefulness, ya know.

Meanwhile, James is ill again, even though he braved it trying to fish with us today. We're taking him to the doctor tomorrow because it might be an infection from his vasectomy two months ago, as it's been reoccurring since then...which, if the case, is easy to fix with some antibiotic. *crosses fingers*

He loves it when we talk about his "junk" with people. Really.

Other potential good news on the horizon. We dare not mention it. One of us tends on the superstitious side (which is stupid).

We're teeting on the cusp of something awesome though!

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Our Final Goodbye To Special Someone

Tonight we said goodbye to a friend, and a former lover, someone who we had been mentioned in two of our blog posts, and James in at least one of his.

Special Someone. While his identity must remain a 100% secret, we can tell you that he is one of our followers on Twitter, and he reads our blogs.  We met him on Twitter and had only said a few words to each other here and there, then one day while we were live tweeting a stalking of Fuck Face…he began DMing us a lot, and it progressed from sharing that he had many the same thoughts about people and society, to saying it would be fun to have us stalk him. We obliged, of course, because it was a fun thing to try…we only knew what he looked like vaguely from his avi, but we knew he was attractive; and then one day we figured out where he worked. He didn't know what we looked like exactly but when we passed him on the sidewalk the first time our stalking "hit the target", we both knew it was each other. We’ll always remember one of the first things he e-mailed to us after that, that of course we were "way out of [his[ league", but we knew we weren't. We had been talking to him for weeks, we’d gotten to know a lot about him, and we knew he was a kind, broken soul...and he also a hottie, he just couldn't admit it.

We met Special Someone in real life (though he’d been our follower for some time) about the exact same time we met James on Twitter (May of this year). Most of our time spent with Special Someone where fleeting moments in a special location after he was done with work, talking and kissing; a couple of make-out sessions in our office at work; a few walks; and a couple of evenings laying in the grass in a local park, talking about life, laughing and just being together. Only once did we ever share an evening with him, and wake up in his arms.

A couple of us where in love with him, and despite the fact we met him and James around the same time, and he knew all about James, James knew nothing about him until our State of the Union entry, written right before he was to arrive in our city in July to spend a month with us. James was upset, and we knew he had a right to be, even though we were not dating at that point; but at least we were honest with him. We only saw Special Someone for a short bit of time, once, while James was here (James actually mentioned him in a couple of his blog entries).

Tonight was only the second time we’ve seen Special Someone since right before we got fired from our job at the end of July. He is a beautiful man, who fell in love with us, and a couple of us with him; however due to many things in his life he was not able to have a relationship with us. Read that how you want. 

After about 20 minutes of talking in our usual spot, laughing sadly, him asking us about our plans, our big adventur; and after several long tearful hugs, because we had all come to the conclusion that this would be our last goodbye, he confirmed the feelings we suspected he had had for us, that he had made clear to us, without saying the words out loud, many times. As he pressed the elevator button, looking at us for the last time with his beautiful eyes…he told us that we had guessed right, about how he felt. With tears gently spilling over our cheeks, we told him we were sorry if any of us had hurt his feelings by making the decision(s) we did.

“I’m just glad we had time together” he said, the sad look in his eyes.

As he stepped into the elevator and turned back to us, we blew him a tearful kiss goodbye and waved.

"Take care of yourself” he said. We nodded our head...and he was gone.

We walked home, thinking about the times we had spent with him, when we met him, the giddiness some of us had felt, and all the other feelings in between we had shared about him, we cried and sipped our wine. 

The air has grown chilly in our city, so we wore different clothes than we usually would have – nothing like our summer dresses, but we know that's how he will remember some of us; and as we passed the fountain we played in several time this past summer, wine in one hand, Twitter in the other, we noticed the water had been drained…looking around the city, some of the trees are actually changing. Fall is upon us. Change is here.  James will be here on Tuesday, we will start a new life, all of us, finally...all of us...together...for the first time in our life.

We cried and lamented about the summer we had, about how far we have come, how far we have to go….this year had been something else, this year had been something else…and it’s not even over yet.

We’ll miss you, Special Someone. The poem that was started for you will be finished someday; the ending and tone will just be a little different, but the sentiment the same. We will never forget you, friend.

~Cassandra, Catherine, Emmie & Frank